Monday Madness: Volume 22

inn at kelly's ford wedding photography

Quote of the Week:

“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.”

–Rachel Wolchin

 

I’m a giver. It is my natural disposition…what can I do for you? How can I help you? What would you like to do? Would you like anything from the store? Which at times has turned into…how can I change my life to better suit yours? How can I change my schedule to help you? Etc. You get the point here.

I like making people happy. I like nice gestures. I like people knowing that I care and that I really do listen. I like making people feel special. I like people knowing that I will go the extra mile for them…that I’ll go out of my way to make them smile…just because I care.

Give and take is a balance though. When the giver keeps giving and the taker keeps taking it’s no fun anymore. The joy in doing for others is gone. Now under no circumstances am I saying that everything needs to be done tit-for-tat…as in…you did x for me so I’ll do y for you. No that’s not what I’m saying at all. What I am saying is that there is only so much giving any one person can do before there’s nothing left to give. When nothing is given back the giver can feel taken advantage of, used up, empty, not appreciated. Finding a balance is so important.

For you givers…set limits and establish boundaries. Tell others what you need in return. When you feel empty say it out loud. When you feel unappreciated or taken advantage of say it. Know the warning signs for those takers that will always be takers. (hint: they’re selfish, they’re self absorbed, they’re concerned more with themselves than you, they don’t ask you about you, they don’t really listen but rather are engaged in other things like tv, their phone, their computer, etc). And sometimes…you just have to say enough is enough. Sometimes you have to put yourself first…and give…to yourself (gasp)!

For you takers…stop being so damn selfish. Think outside of yourself and think of others. What do the people in your life need? What do they like? Learn to give back. Learn to listen. I think you have to ask yourself at some point…if the situation were backwards and you were giving and they were taking…how would you feel?

 

Highlights of the last few weeks:

* KITTENS!!!!!! My kittens are cuter than yours!!!! My kittens are the cutest kittens in the whole wide world!!! My kittens make me smile all the time!!! My Aggie and my Archie are getting so big and are growing out of some of their kitten ways and that makes me a little sad. I wish they could stay little forever. I got them an awesome kitten castle/condo climbing/scratching thing and they love it!!!

* It’s officially busy season here at Amber Kay Photography! Weddings every weekend and lots of other shoots too. This past weekend was a whirlwind. Wedding all day Saturday, in bed by 1:30am, up by 5:30 am Sunday, and an early morning portrait shoot in Georgetown. Believe me the rest of yesterday was spent being lazy, on the couch, with my Savannah, my pillows, and my kittens.

* I’ve really been enjoying driving country back roads whenever possible. Especially if it means I can avoid 95/395/495 traffic! I don’t even care if I have to drive out of the way. Seriously nothing beats a back country road with lots of trees, and barns, and fields, and horses and cows, and beautiful blue skies with puffy clouds.

* I’m thinking now that I should re-name my Instagram account. Maybe to something like “Aggie and Archie” or “Crazy Cat Lady”. Lol. As I look at all my photos I notice that the majority are kitten posts lately. So I guess if you don’t like seeing the most adorable kittens ever…maybe you shouldn’t follow me 🙂 . Joking…not joking.

* I really need a vacation. Away from home and work. I need some time to put down my cell phone and step away from my computer. I’m feeling a little overwhelmed, under appreciated, and in general “eh” about my life. I think I need to recharge my batteries and reconnect. Maybe sometime in July I can make it happen?

And of course since every blog post needs pictures…I’ll leave you with two peeks at how I spent my weekend. Have a fabulous Monday!!!!
inn at kelly's ford wedding photographyGeorgetown dancer portrait

 

 

 

1 comment

  1. I appreciate you, you’re honesty, your talent and very much appreciate having you in our lives!

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